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- Real Sex for Real Women – Pt 2.
- Real Sex for Real Women
- Human Sexuality
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Real Sex for Real Women
November 20th, 2008 by 4Quan
I was reading a book about real sex for real women (a woman’s point of view) and I thought that I’d share some of what I thought about it with you. I will post in parts and I hope you enjoy.
Sex and Intimacy
Intimacy is the fiber that binds us to the people we love, and is built on time, investment, and honest communication. In a healthy long-term relationship, intimacy increases with time and many men and women are fortunate to have a lover who is also their best friend. Sex and romance are crucial for long-term intimacy. The stronger the sexual connection, the stronger the emotional intimacy will be. It is important to nurture and feed your relationship both emotionally and sexually.
The sex and intimacy cycle
Sex and intimacy are closely linked in our brains, but men and women respond differently to intimacy. Many men can’t feel intimate with their partner unless their sex life is satisfying, but many women can’t enjoy sex without intimacy. For men, sex feeds intimacy, and for women, intimacy feeds sex. These sexual differences can be disruptive to your relationship, so it is important to nourish your sex life with intimacy.
First love to familiarity
When you first met your lover, chances are you were overwhelmed with sensations of excitement, bliss, and smoldering desire. When you fall in love, your brain releases chemicals such as serotonin, adrenaline, and oxytocin. These chemicals create feelings of excitement and passion. As time goes by, and you become more comfortable together, your desire wanes and you stop having as much sex. This phase also tends to involve a loss of spark.
This happens because, over time, your brain becomes accustomed to these chemicals and requires more hormone to create the initial high. In other words, ongoing intense sexual excitement in a loving relationship goes against our biological instincts. This means you have to work at keeping the intimacy and attraction between you.
Obstacles to intimacy
When you or your partner are having a hard time—for example, at work—your poor mood will affect you both. Similarly, if your sex life is floundering, you will both feel the effects in all parts of your relationship. To keep intimacy in your relationship, you need to have a fulfilling sex life, and vice versa. Nourish your intimacy levels by making sure that you keep a physical connection alive—touching, kissing, and even talking will enhance your bond and intimacy.
The deepest and most fulfilling intimacy springs from the closeness of a long-term relationship and time spent keeping passion in your relationship. But if you have been with your partner for a long time, you may discover that you no longer have a high sex drive or get that little “zing” every time you kiss him or he touches you. There are many ways to reignite this spark and keep your sex life intimate and passionate. So get comfortable and keep reading.
We’ll see you next week for part 2.
4Quan
Warrior for Truth
Professor (things that make you go Hmm..)
Posted in Human Sexuality, Relationships, Sex | tagged Intimacy, Obstacles to Intimacy, Real Sex and Real Women, Sex, Sex and Intimacy | | 1 Comments
Human Sexuality
November 14th, 2008 by 4Quan
Sexuality
Where do you begin a discussion on this topic. So vast and yet so misunderstood.
Understanding what sexuality is may be a good start. What is sexuality? In my mind sexuality is the defining of an individuals like and dislikes, do’s and don’ts as it relates to sex. Each person has a unique sexual identification based on their values and beliefs in this area. Sexuality differs from sex as sex tends to describe physical acts that a person/s engage in.
Anna Freud famously wrote that “sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are.” This way of understanding sex highlights the difference between the act of sex and the individual experience of sexuality, which is an intrinsic part of who we are, one that can’t be separated out of ourselves any more than our ethnicity or religious/spiritual beliefs.
Body
Every part of our body can play a role during sex. People use their feet to get to a place of arousal and some are simply aroused by the foot itself. Others use elbows, thighs or eye contact during sexual play. Learning more about how your body works when having sex, and how you can work it more to your benefit can expand your definition of sex exponentially.
Mind
It’s often said that the greatest sexual organ we have is our mind. How we think and feel about our bodies and ourselves and how we interpret the physical contact we have with others is what we believe the difference between good sex and bad. Some people worry about thinking too much about sex but the facts are that exploring our sexual thoughts and feelings may be much more important than trying on the latest sex position or role play outfit.
Spirit
Most major religious beliefs have a lot to say about sexuality. Saying that sex can be defined in spiritual terms doesn’t have to include organised religion. For some, sex is spiritual because they feel like it brings them closer to their partner in what they feel, in a spiritual way. What we need to keep in mind is that our religious and spiritual beliefs do help make up our personal definition of sex, and exploring them is another way of exploring sex.
Health
For some sex keeps them healthy much like exercise. Expanding a definition of sex to include sexual health is a good way to bring all these different parts together. Over 30 years ago the World Health Organisation defined sexual health as:
“…a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.”
Pam and I are very mindful that good sex helps to maintain good health in a relationship and is no different than eating healthy and exercising. So I would encourage all our readers to promote healthy sexual relations in your relationships 
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Until we next put pen to paper I wish you health, happiness and great sexual adventures.
Mark
Warrior for Truth
Professor (things that make you go Hmm..)
Posted in Human Sexuality, Sex | tagged Human Sexuality, Religion, Sex, Sexual Beliefs, Sexual Health, Sexual Mindset, Sexuality | | 0 Comments
Congratulations President Obama!
November 10th, 2008 by 4Quan
We are so pleased to hear that Barack Obama was successful in the US elections. Whilst we were not in the states for the election, we could still share in the excitement that the American people have. There is a very large job ahead of our president-elect, but we have faith that he and his team will do the best he can for the American people. I am amazed at the different opinions and comments from all over the world, not just America or Australia for that matter. That is what makes people unique. We are all entitled to those opinions, and with the power of the “world wide web” it makes it ever so apparent.
Barack Obama
We’ve been in Australia for many years now, but still feel connected to America through friends and family and the American influence here in Australia. With the Thanksgiving holiday right around the corner (27 November) it is a very special family get together time in the US. We celebrate here with other American friends that decided to migrate to Australia and call it home. We try to keep it to tradition the best way possible, with turkey and all the trimmings. Earlier days, I credit the American Women’s Club of Perth for keeping the American holidays alive for our families, especially our children – to remember their heritage.
We would like to take the opportunity now to wish our new president and his family a safe and successful presidency. Happy Thanksgiving!
Chiropam
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